Excel-N-Marriage

Happy New Year!

2007-12-31T21:56:00.000-08:00

On behalf of my wife and I, we would like to wish couples from around the world, Happy New Year. 2008 will be a year to deepen your relationship with your spouse. We are excited to bring you more insights about how to Excel in your marriage!

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Couple's Exercise

2007-11-05T19:41:00.000-08:00

Take time to RELAX 2gether!

Reminisce your fondest memories

Embrace by holding each other

Listen to each other

Affirm your love for each other

X out criticism and belittling

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Couple's Exercise

2007-10-30T11:55:00.000-07:00

Take a WALK 2gether!

When you take a WALK with your mate, keep things MaritalNSites in mind:

Work on your communication.

Affirm your LOVE to each other.

Laugh together!!!!!!

Knitted together by holding hands!!!

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Couple's Exercise

2007-10-21T15:12:00.000-07:00

1 Year Goal!!!!

This is a great exercise for your relationship. Take a sheet of paper and write down your wedding anniversary: June 30, 2007. Under that date, write down your wedding date one year later; June 30, 2008. Write down four goals of where you want to be on that date!

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Couple's Exercise

2007-10-10T15:12:00.000-07:00

Couple's Exercise:

Spend time with your mate and discuss four strengths that you see in your relationship. Also, share two growth areas. Growth areas are areas in your marriage that you want to improve on.

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Marriage University

2007-08-29T14:22:00.000-07:00

We are excited about our new project. We are Launching Marriage University. We are sharing relavent, biblical and practical principles to couples to assist them to keep their marriage healthy and progressive! We will share more soon.

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Marriage SEAL DAY 07-07-07

2007-07-06T15:46:00.000-07:00

This day is a special day for couples. It is a time for couples to SEAL their relationship. The word SEAL comes from the word; sign. On this special day, make a commitment to make your marriage a sign of total oneness. Make a vow that the both of you are inseparable. That nothing or no one can separate your bond! You are SEAL for life!!!!!!!

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A Fruitful Marriage-Love

2007-06-20T08:42:00.000-07:00

In order to have the right fruit, you must plant the right root. Every couple must plant the right root in their marriage, in order to enjoy the right fruit. To plant the right root, you must have the right SEED. Here is a simple process of how couples can plant the right SEEDs in their marriage.

Seed: LOVE

Study:Look up the word and grasp its meaning.
Love-A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person.

Examination:Discuss how this seed will benefit your relationship.
1. Develop a deeper level of committment.
2. Develop a more secure relationship
3. Maintain stablility

Expound on a plan:Discuss several ways to develop this seed into your marriage
1. Write each other Love Notes
2. Understand each other's Love Language
3. Describe how much you love each other in a word picture.

DATE (Designated Alone Time to Execute): Set a time to put this plan into action.
On friday, June 22, at 6:30 we will go to dinner and share our love in a word picture to each other.

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A Fruitful Marriage

2007-06-05T09:39:00.000-07:00

Galatians 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

If your marriage is not growing, it is slowly dying. We must be intentional to make sure we are planting the right SEEDS in our marriage, in order for our marriage to be fruitful and progressing. I will share how you can plant the right SEEDS in your marriage to make it stay Fruitful!

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Having the Right Ingredients

2007-05-23T11:18:00.000-07:00

5. Problem-solving skills

Wisdom to deal the problems in marriage is another important ingredient. Couples must have the wisdom to deal with the problem and not attack the person. Here are a few wisdom principles to develop this skill.

1. Agreement- the couples must be in agreement to settle the issue and move on.

2. Focus on the root- all problems come from a root issue. The root problem, normally come a unfullfilled need or a need violated.

3. Sharing perceptions-Allow each person to share how they perceive the issue.

4. Understand and Respect-both are essential to resolving an issue. What you don't understand, you still need to respect.

5. Plan for progress- discuss how you can move on. Change a routine and maintain your closeness.

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Having the Right Ingredients

2007-05-02T09:58:00.000-07:00

4. Passion

Passion is a celebration of emotions by applying the right principles. In marriage, principles should proceed passion. When principles are applied, passion increases. Marriage was created for celebration, not toleration.

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Having the Right Ingredients

2007-04-25T07:13:00.000-07:00

3. Permanent Roles

A successful couple is a couple who knows their roles. I am not referring to who does the dishes or who takes out the garbage, but knowing how to relate to each other. There are permanent roles for couples to live out, in order for them to stay productive and long lasting. I want to share the number one need for the husband and wife.

#1 Need for a Woman

To be Received

A woman wants to be received, meaning to feel accepted and loved. A woman wants to know that she is very valuable and she is apart of a secure relationship. This need can be affirmed by verbal acknowledgement and acts of kindness. She wants to be listen to, felt included and cherish.

#1 Need for a Man

To be Respected

A man wants his wife to believe in him. A man needs support and encouragement. He needs to know that his wife will be right beside him through the good and bad times. This need can be met by sharing appreciation and verbal praise.

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Having the Right Ingredients

2007-04-18T08:25:00.000-07:00

The next ingredient for couples to have in their relationship is:

2. Principles

A standard that one lives by. Couples must live by principles in order for principles to guide, guard and govern them. When couples are principles-centered, they are equipped to resolve conflicts.

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Having the right ingredients

2007-04-11T07:46:00.000-07:00

Marriage is a wonderful GIFT that God created for a man and women to enjoy for life. Marriage is similar to a beautiful cake. A cake must have the right ingredients, in order for it to taste good and look great! Here is the first ingredient:

1. Purpose

Purpose is the reason for existence. It is answering why something exist. God created marriage and anything God creates should reflect Him. When a couple have a child, that child resembles the people that created them. It is the same in marriage. Marriage should reflect the image of God. How is this done? God's image is made up of His character. God is love, joyful, peaceable etc.. When couples consciously focus on developing these qualities in their marriage, they are reflecting God image. Come together into agreement and implement this ingredient into your marriage.

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Developing the Right Habits

2007-03-21T04:43:00.000-07:00

A habit is a subconscious thought that is expressed through a repetitive behavior pattern. These behavior patterns can be positive or negative. The negative patterns will undoubtedly harm marriages. I will be sharing with you some habits to avoid and habits to develop.

Habit to avoid:
Eating your meals separately and/or in front of the TV.

Habit to develop:
Eating together should be a priority in your relationship. It allows you to focus in on your relationship and stay connected. Make an effort on a daily basis to eat together, it is healthy for your marriage.

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Important ANNOUNCEMENT

2007-03-16T16:15:00.000-07:00

I want to share some exciting news with you. I am declaring July 07, 2007, Marriage SEAL Day. As you know, so many marriages are being pulled apart for various reasons. I want to make 07-07-07 a special day for couples. STAY TUNE for details!!!!!

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Fill in the blank

2007-03-15T01:30:00.000-07:00

Take time to share the completed phrase with your mate.

"I really appreciate you for __________________________________."

(fill in blank)

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Fill in the blank

2007-03-10T17:37:00.000-08:00

Take time to share the completed phrase with your mate.

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,

When I behold you,

I, ______________________________

(Fill-in blank)

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Dating your Mate

2007-02-23T13:09:00.000-08:00

Date #5

"A Breath of Fresh Air"

Take a nature walk or hike and enjoy God's creation. Observe the beauty of nature. Find something unique to take home as a souvenir.

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Dating your Mate

2007-02-22T11:11:00.000-08:00

Date #4

"Music for the HEART"

Spice up your evening with poetry and music! Recite an original poem to each other while you listen to light soothing music.

"Poetry ignites a flame, music fans it"

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FREE Marital Coaching session

2007-02-21T05:27:00.000-08:00

E-mail me your marital questions and I will answer them! Send your e-mail marital questions to

worldmpact@yahoo.com

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Dating your Mate

2007-02-21T05:24:00.000-08:00

Date #3

"Coffee, Tea and Me Date"

Enjoy a hot cup of coffee or tea- relax and enjoy each other's presence!"

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Dating your Mate

2007-02-20T14:39:00.000-08:00

Date #2

"The Hallmark Date"
Go into a card shop and choose a special card to give each other... only don't buy them. Just pick them out and give them to each other in the store. (Don't sign them)

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Dating your Mate

2007-02-19T07:33:00.000-08:00

Many married couples dated their mate during courtship and have not maintained the art of dating in their married life. Once couples are married, they are bombarded with excuses of why they can't enjoy dating. Dating is not a time issue, but a priority issue.

I define a DATE as:

Designated
Alone
Times for
Enjoyment

During this week, I will present five dates for you and your spouse to Enjoy

Date #1

Back Down Memory Lane
Set aside some time and reminisce about when you first met. Discuss what attracted you to each other and what qualities really appealed to you. Write down some of the special memories you both shared when you first met.

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Happy Valentine's Day

2007-02-14T13:18:00.000-08:00

Happy Valentine's Day

Dr. & Mrs db

Marital Check UP

2007-02-06T13:21:00.000-08:00

Is your marriage healthy, or just happy?

So many couples just desire to be happy in their relationship. Happiness can mean varies things; warm fuzzes, both are you are very compatible and both are you are sharing "sweet nothings" into each other's ears. Many couples strive for happiness, rather than healthiness. Imagine this, you take you child to the candy store and way to them; "You can have all the candy you want". Your child will be very happy with your offer, but the end result will be a stomach ache. The child would be happy, but not healthy. When you strive to have a healthy marriage, you can enjoy true happiness!!!!!!

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Taking a STAND in Marriage

2007-02-01T10:25:00.000-08:00

D is for Declaration

Words are one of the most powerful tool for a couple. Couples get married by stating words, called vows. The reason words are so important, is that words create an atmosphere. When an atmosphere is create, it creates a climate. Climate is important, because it allows things to grow. When couples declare positive words, it creates a climate for their love and commitment to flourish. Couples can take a STAND by declaring words. Declare means "To make Clear". Couples must make it clear in their words how they feel about each other, their commitment and what type of atmosphere they want their marriage to live in. Declare the right words, create the right atmosphere!

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Taking a STAND for marriage

2007-01-31T13:42:00.000-08:00

N is for Needs fulfilled

God created us to be need based. It is very important for couples to know and meet each other needs. There are two distinct needs in every relationship. These two needs are Respect and Revered. Husbands top need is to respected and wives top need is to be revered. Husband's need can be met by appreciating who he is and what he does in the relationship. Wives's need can be met by affirming her identity and cherishing her.

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Taking a STAND for Marriage

2007-01-29T10:28:00.000-08:00

A is for Alignment

In order for marriages today to STAND, they must be aligned with accurate truths. These truths set the foundation in their relationship. When couples are aligned with proper truths, they can enjoy longevity, order and pleasure.

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Taking a STAND for Marriage

2007-01-24T13:21:00.000-08:00

T is for Tools

Couples must STAND on Tools, meaning Principles, for the success of their marriage. So many couples are trying to live off Passion. Couples must learn Marital Tools like:
1. How to communicate
2. How to resolve conflicts
3. How to deal with differences
4. How to stay focus
5. How to develop marital vision and goals

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Taking a STAND for your marriage!!!!!

2007-01-14T19:19:00.000-08:00

As you well know, marriages have been attacked. Divorce is at an all time high and alternative relationships are increasing. Couples must take a STAND in their marriage. Here's how they can start:

S is for Standard- A set of principles that one stands on. When couples STAND on principles, it protects them from being stationary in problems. Here are some examples of marital's STANDards;

1. We are committed to deal with any problem that tries to divide or block us from moving forward.

2. We are committed to enhance our marriage through seminars, books and dates.

3. We are committed to allow biblical and practical principles to be an intricate part of our marriage.

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5 Mandates in Marriage

2007-01-08T07:55:00.000-08:00

Have Dominion

The fifth and final mandate in marriage is for couples to exercise dominion. Dominion means to activate control over your domain. Marriage is the couple's domain and God has given us a mandate to exercise control of it. We have the power to allow and disallow what comes in our domain. We need only to allow things like peace, passion, commitment, growth and love. We must disallow things like divorce, separation, division, strife and affairs.

Start this new year activating these 5 Mandates in your marriage. Mandates in marriage will move your relationship from mundane to momentum!

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5 Mandates in Marriage

2007-01-04T14:18:00.000-08:00

Subdue

The fourth mandate in marriage is to subdue. Subdue means to conquer and bring into subjection. Couples have been given the power to conquer anything that tries to hinder or block their progress. When couples stay united and activate this mandate; they can conquer anything!

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5 Mandates in Marriage

2006-12-27T09:21:00.000-08:00

Fill the earth

The third mandate for couples is to fill the earth. God created couples to live in fulfillment. When couples are fulfilled in their home, that fulfillment affects communities, the cities, states, regions, countries, continents and the world.

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5 Mandates in Marriage

2006-12-22T20:57:00.000-08:00

MULTIPLY

This is the second mandate for couples. Let's examine the word "Multiply". A deeper revelation of "Multi-ply" is to apply multiple things to the extent it takes precedent over everything else. When couples apply multiple biblical principles, it can take control over any problems they will face!

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5 Mandates in Marriage

2006-12-19T14:58:00.000-08:00

There are five mandates to excel in your marriage. A mandate is a decree or instructions that produces order. The first mandate in marriage is:

FRUITFUL

This mandate is instructing the couple to be a producer. This mandate goes beyond literally producing children, but to produce life. Couples must create things in their marriage that produces fruit or life. Couples should not allow any type of death in their marriage. Also, in order to produce fruit, you must first plant a root. ROOT stands for

Revelation of commitment

Oneness

Openness

Time together

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Releasing Unhealthy Habits

2006-12-11T07:53:00.000-08:00

As you prepare to enter into new year, it's important to take the time to release unhealthy habits. Habits are very easy to develop whether good or bad. Habits are developed by a mindset that is manifested through your behavior. If you have a negative mindset, you will eventually create negative habits and vice versa. One of the greatest mindset that creates unhealthy habits is slowly forming a lack of respect for your spouse. When the mindset of lack of respect is set, it produces:

1. Taking each other for granted
2. Lack of sensitivity
3. Irriabitliy
4. Reacting, instead of responding
5. Ignoring
6. Being snappy with each other
7. Silent treatment
8. Negative attitude

When these root of a mindset of lack of respect, it produces the "Fruit" of:

1. Not spending time together
2. Eating in front of the TV instead of eating at the dining table
3. Staying up all night on the internet, instead of being with you spouse
4. Putting each other down through humor or meaness
5. Getting too busy involved in other activities
6. Getting lazy and not attending church service
7. Forgetting important dates (i.e. birthdays, anniversaries)
8. Arguing over petty things

Start today and inhance the level of respect for your spouse and your marriage. Understand that your spouse and your marriage is very valuable and should be treated in just manner.

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A New Beginning

2006-11-30T06:43:00.000-08:00

Ecc. 3:1 says there is a new season for everything. That "everything" includes your marriage. Regardless of what happen in your marriage in 2006, 2005 or 2004, a new year is approaching. You can make 2007 the best year ever in your marriage. Above, you will see a countdown to 2007. Utilize this time to:

1. Let go of past issues.
2. Make a commitment to move forward
3. Develop goals for 2007
4. Make a decision to stop developing counter productive habits in your marriage
5. Meet with a Marriage counselor or a Marriage Coach to assist you in some issues.
6. Be determine to excel in your marriage

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© David L. Banks, 2006

The 3 Dimensions in Marriage- ONENESS

2006-11-30T06:25:00.000-08:00

The third dimension in marriage is

ONENESS

In this dimension is where the couple is really experiencing the true meaning of marriage. The couple is beginning to progress forward and enjoy a deeper closer on another level. Also, at this level, when the couple put their minds together to accomplish something, there is nothing they can't accomplish. They both draw from each other's strength. This couple has developed ways to work through issues and resolve conflicts more effectively. Now since you have learned about the three dimension in marriage, make it your goal to start to entering into them!

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The 3 Dimensions in Marriage- CLEAVING

2006-11-29T10:28:00.000-08:00

The second dimension in marriage is

CLEAVING

In this dimension, the couple is now ready to start to move closer together. This process is developed by:

1. TIME- spending time together is an important ingredient in bringing a couple together. Don't try to focus on quality vs quantity time, but every time you spend time together make it very special.

2. Talk-Communication is also another important element in cleaving. When you communicate, you SOULS are connected to each other.

3. Touch- Being affectionate is another connecting component. Holding hands, body massages, kissing and being intimate are ways you can cleave with your mate.

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The 3 Dimensions in Marriage- LEAVING

2006-11-27T09:10:00.000-08:00

Marriage was created in three different dimensions. A dimension is a applied revelation. When a couple learned a new revelation and apply that revelation in their marriage, they enter into another dimension. The first Dimension in marriage is:

LEAVING

In this dimension, the couple is learning how to leave their singleness and selfishness. When a person is single, they only have to think about themselves, which can result in being selfish. When that person enters into marriage, they must be willing to LEAVE; meaning to separate from, detach or break away from. Both husband and wife must be willing to walk through this dimension together. Only after they move through this dimension of LEAVING, they are ready to enter into the next dimension.

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The ABCs of Marriage Z

2006-11-23T06:43:00.000-08:00

Z is for Zone

When the couples apply the letters A-Y, they will enter into the "Marriage Zone". A Zone means an area that has distinctive characteristics. You want your marriage to be distinct from others. When your marriage has developed and entered into the "Marital Zone", your marriage will become strong, solid and sealed for life. You will become inseparable!!!!!!!!!

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The ABCs of Marriage Y

2006-11-23T06:27:00.000-08:00

Y is for Yearly

Every year consisted of 365 days. Couples must not waist a day. Here are some things couples must do on a yearly basis:

1. Go on vacation
2. Yearly goals for health, finances
3. Marital enhancement: Read a marriage book, marriage seminar and marriage devotional
4. Renew marital vows
5. Celebrate your anniversary
6. Strategize how you can make your marriage better
7. Husband- write your write a love note
8. Wives-write your husband a note of how much you appreciate him
9. Go on a picnic
10. Mentor another couple

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The ABCs of Marriage X

2006-11-23T06:12:00.001-08:00

X is for Xcited

A fundamental MUST for all couples is to keep their marriage xciting. Here is a simple way to keep your marriage "Xsiting":

X out things that brings division, strife, obstacles or any negative hindrances

SITE- Take the initiative to focus on things that can strengthen your marriage:
1. Date
2. Marriage seminar
3. Weekend getaway
4. Candle light dinner
5. Have fun together
6. Show each other "Love Language"
7. Discuss and work through difficult situation
8. Pray together
9. Discover the treasures in your marriage
10. Impact other couples

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The ABCs of Marriage W

2006-11-22T18:13:00.000-08:00

W is for Wisdom

Wisdom is a dimension that couples need to dwell in. Wisdom are principles that sets the right foundation. When couples establish themselves in wisdom, it allows their relationship to be firm, fit and fulfilled.

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The ABCs of Marriage V

2006-11-21T10:46:00.000-08:00

V is for Vision

There is a proverb that says:

"If you do not know where you are going, you will always end up where you are".

I strongly recommend that couples establish a marital vision for their marriage. The importance of this is two fold:

1. To keep the couple focus on one goal

2. To keep the couple moving forward

My marital goal for my marriage is: "To strive to create an excellent marriage, not in perfection, but to excel in every area in order to produce fulfillment." I encourage you to work together to establish your own marital vision.

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The ABCs of Marriage U

2006-11-20T12:03:00.000-08:00

U is for United

One Fundamental principle in marriage is for the couple to stay united. Couples should not allow anything or anyone to come between them. The bible states that the couple should "cleave and become one". Staying united can be achieve by:

1. Communication
2. Resolving conflicts
3. Prayer
4. Spending time together
5. Having FUN

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The ABCs of Marriage T

2006-11-19T17:13:00.000-08:00

T is for TIME

There is a special phenomenon that happens when couples spend TIME together. TIME stands for:

Treasures
In
Marriage
Emerges

When couples spend time together, they have a special opportunity to discover some wonderful treasures in their marriage. Treasures are new discovers of each other! During this holiday season, spend TIME with each other and discover new found treasures in your marriage!

The ABCs of Marriage S

2006-11-14T10:06:00.000-08:00

S is for Sever

Marriage was created for movement. Each couple's responsibility is to examine their marriage to insure their marriage is moving. There are several things that tries to slow down,hold back, block or even divide the couple. These things must be exposed and severed out of the relationship. Here listed are some of these hindrances:

1. Bitterness
2. Unresolve issues
3. Unforgiveness
4. Distractions
5. Strife
6. Negativity
7. Bringing up the past
8. Bad habits
9. Discuss personal issues with others beside your spouse
10. Bringing up the word "Divorce" when an argument arise

When these things are severed out of a relationship, it allows the relationship to continue moving and growing!

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The ABCs of Marriage R

2006-11-09T11:54:00.000-08:00

R is for Romance

Many couples sometimes find it hard to keep the romance in their marriage. There are so many things; jobs, bills, finances, kid's activities and ministry that are demanding your time and attention. The key to romance is to revive the atmosphere. Here are some simple tips:

1. Schedule time to be together. Make it a priority.
2. Be spontaneous
3. Be creative
4. Be affectionate
5. Buy scented candles and soft music to create the atmosphere

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The ABCs of Marriage Q

2006-11-08T09:07:00.000-08:00

Q is for Quiet TIME

Even though it is very important for couples to spend quality together, but it also important for couple to experience quiet time alone. This will give each partner time for a little R&R:

1. Reflect of how things are going inside of them.
2. Recharge-build yourself up.

I suggest every week, couples should schedule some Quiet TIME alone for some R&R! It will do wonders for your marriage.

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The ABCs of Marriage P

2006-11-05T17:55:00.000-08:00

P is for Prayer

When a couple pray together, they stay together! Prayer must be a neccessity, not just a time of convenent. Prayer is simple having fellowship with God. Here is a simple marital prayer;

"Father, we commit our marriage to you.

We ask that you give us the wisdom to align our

marriage to your design of marriage. We take dominon

over anything that trys to bring division between us or

any obstacles that trys to prevent us moving forward

We declare that our marriage is strong, health and inseparable.

In Jesus name Amen."

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The ABCs of Marriage O

2006-11-02T11:10:00.000-08:00

O is for Openness

Being transparent in your marriage is a necessity. Without being open and transparent, your relationship starts to create walls in between you and obstacles in front of you. It is very important to keep the lines of communication open, thus preventing any "static". Remember the Verizon phone commercial "Can you hear me now"? Make sure that you both are heard and you are heard loud and clear. Create an environment where your mate feels safe to share whatever is on their heart. Take time to listen when your spouse is talking. When a couple has develop this type of openness, it creates a BOND, where the couple becomes inseparable.

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The ABCs of Marriage N

2006-11-01T10:36:00.000-08:00

N is for Notes

It is very important for couples to write notes to each other. It is a language of love and appreciation. I encourage men to write their brides "Love Notes". Wives want to know how much their husbands love them. Men, when writing a love note, explain how much you love her and cherish her. I suggest wives to write "Appreciation Notes". Here are an examples of each note:

Love note to their bride: "Sweetheart, I love you like ______________" (i.e. give some comparison)

Appreciation note to husband: "Honey, I appreciate you for the following;" (give bullets points)

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The ABCs of Marriage M

2006-10-31T11:24:00.000-08:00

M is for Magnify

Magnify means to increase the perception of in order of importance. Whatever you focus on in your marriage, you will react or respond to each other. If you focus on the negatives in your marriage, you will react towards your spouse with fear, bitterness, defensiveness and strife. When you focus on the positives, you will respond to your mate with love, hope and respect. Spend some time after you read this entry and write down the strengths and positive things in your marriage. When you magnify the strengths, you will have the strength and the willingness to deal with the perceived growth areas.

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The ABCs of Marriage L

2006-10-30T10:34:00.000-08:00

L is for Love Language

Do you know your mate's Love Language. Love language is how you show and want to receive love. Here are four types of Love Language;

1. Words of Affirmation-you receive love by hearing words like "I love you", "I appreciate you", "You looked nice" and "You are my best friend".

2. Service-You receive love by servicing others and by others servicing you.

3. Time-You receive love by spending quality time with your mate.

4. Gifts-You receive love by giving and receiving tokens of love. (i.e. cards, candy, big and small gifts)

5. Touch- You receive love by being affectionate; holding hands, back rubs, massages and kissing.

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The ABCs of Marriage K

2006-10-27T19:11:00.000-07:00

K is for Knowing

One very important element in marriage is the importance of KNOWING EACH OTHER! We spend so much time getting to know each other during the dating period, but when couples get married they feel like they know each other. When couples feel like they know each other, it lead to assumptions, thinking for each other and speculation. Regardless of how long you have been married, keep getting to know each other. Here are some things you should get to KNOW;

1. Favorite colors?

2. Favorite places?

3. What makes you happy, sad, frustrated, mad and motivated?

4. What are your dreams?

5. What would you do if you know you could not fail?

6. If you had some free time, what would you do?

7. If you could create something, what would you create?

8. Favorite TV program, movie and character

9. Favorite book

10. Favorite music

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The ABCs of Marriage J

2006-10-26T14:47:00.000-07:00

J is for Journal

Journaling is a great idea for couples to treasure their thoughts and memories. Here are some things that could be included in your journal.

1. Give your journal a name
2. Write each other love letters and notes.
3. Have a section for prayer requests and testimonies.
4. Write down dreams
5. Write down your marital vision
6. Special memories
7. Lists of DATES
8. Your Love Languages
9. Ideas of how to enhance your marriage
10. Greatest challenges and greatest victories

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The ABCs of Marriage I

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I is for Intimacy

A FUNdamental principle for married couples is to have a healthy, active intimate relationship. Many times the longer the couple is married, their intimate life becomes boring, routine and dead. Here are some tips to help couples keep their intimate life anew;

1. InTIMatE is all about TIME together. Daily spend time together to develop a deeper closeness.

2. Create the right atmosphere by spending time together, talking together and touching.

3. Make sure other areas in your relationship is going well, thereby allowing being intimate a celebration.

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The ABCs of Marriage H

2006-10-24T19:16:00.000-07:00

H is for Haven

Marriage should be a place of peace, principles and passion. God created the first couple, Adam and Eve, and put them in the Garden of Eden. This garden was a haven, a protective place of delight.

The ABCs of Marriage G

2006-10-23T15:04:00.000-07:00

G is for Goals

Goals are very important to a couple. When couples establish goals for their marriage, it forces them to move forward. Marriage was created for progression, therefore it is vital for couples to establish goals. Here are some examples of marital goals:

1. Within the next seven days, we will schedule at time to go on a date.

2. By next year this time, we will attend a marriage seminar.

3. Next Tuesday at 7:00pm, we will meet to discuss the finances.

Here are a few tips to consider when establishing SMART marital goals:

Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Tangible

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The ABCs of Marriage F

2006-10-22T18:50:00.000-07:00

F is for Fulfillment

Marriage was created for fulfillment. Fulfillment is a manifestation of an applied truth. When couples learn and apply Biblical and Practical Truth, they will start to see and experience fulfillment.

The ABCs of Marriage E

2006-10-20T10:56:00.000-07:00

E is for Encouragement

Encouragement means to have the ability to confront and conquer obstacles. Marriage was created for progression, therefore it is very important that the couples to stay encourage to prevent anything from preventing that progress. Here is how to stay encourage;

1. Allow God to be your source of strength and courage.

2. Realize the every problem has a solution.

3. Understand that the Power of Agreement is greater that the Power of Adversity.

4. Confront instead of ignore obstacles.

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The ABCs of Marriage D

2006-10-19T11:59:00.000-07:00

D is for Deposit

A main goal in your marriage is to make deposit. What are deposit? Deposits are acts of kindness, verbal appreciation, basically anything to improve your marriage. Here are a list of Deposits:

1. Saying I Love You

2. Going on a DATE (Designated Alone Time with Each other)

3. Praying for each other

4. Attending a Marriage Seminar

5. Appreciating each other

6. Giving each other a massage

7. Get away weekend

8. Working through a Marital Devotion

9. Sending each other a silly card

10. Going for a long walk

Make a point to start making deposits in your marriage!

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The ABCs of Marriage C

2006-10-18T08:31:00.000-07:00

C is for Commitment

Commitment means a steadfast fixity of purpose. Commitment is based on a well thought through decision, not an impulsive emotion. Commitment is knowing why you are doing something, rather than feeling obligated. Commitment is re-enforced by words and actions. Set some time aside and look at each other and reaffirm your commitment.

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The ABCs of Marriage B

2006-10-17T11:03:00.000-07:00

B is for Believe

One of the FUNdamentals of a great marriage is to have a strong Belief system. The couple must believe in Christ as their total source, believe in each other and believe they will and can have the BEST marriage ever! Whatever you believe in will eventually become a reality. Everything is create first by what you believe in. Belief is simple taking a though and making it a Truth in your life. So, start today creating some positive thoughts about each other and your marriage and transform those thoughts, through meditation, to a belief. Once it is a belief, then you will see it manifested throughout your relationship.

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The ABCs of Marriage- A

2006-10-16T10:55:00.001-07:00

There is a principle that emphasize that if you know the fundamentals, you can master anything. I want to share with you the FUNdamentals of marriage, it is as simple as knowing your ABCs.

A is for Appreciation

To appreciate is to set a value on. In marriage, you must appreciate each other's differences, time, opinions, acts of kindness and your commitment.

Take time today and share how much you appreciate each other!

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How DEEP can we go?

2006-10-11T16:32:00.000-07:00

Communication in marriage is very vital. To have an Excellent Marriage, the couple must be willing to go deeper in their communication. I want to share four levels in communication:

Daily conversation-this level is the surface level. You are discussing small talk.
Enlightenment-this level you are sharing how you both think about a certain situation.
Emotional-this level you are sharing how you both feel about certain situations
Personal-this is the deepest level. At this level, you are sharing who you are; your dreams, fears and your deepest innermost being.

How does a couple reach to this deep level? It takes time, trusting and being transparent. Begin to deepen your communication with your spouse.

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Marriage-Heaven on Earth

2006-10-10T12:01:00.000-07:00

God create marriage to be on Heaven on Earth!!!!!!

Genesis 2:8
Now the Lord God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed.

The phrase "Garden of Eden" means a protected place of delight. It literally means Paradise or Heaven on earth.

Would you like to have this type of marriage? It is possible! We will show you how, stay tune!

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What type of marriage do you want?

2006-10-09T13:24:00.000-07:00

Please discuss with your mate this very important question; What type of marriage do we want?

1. Single-minded Marriage-A marriage where the people live two separate lives.

2. Just Married-A marriage based on mediocrity.

3. An Excellent Marriage- A marriage where you both are striving to excel in your marriage.

Remember this: Whatever type of marriage you want is the type of marriage you will pursue.

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Welcome to ExcelNMarriage

2006-10-06T15:07:00.000-07:00

Hello and welcome to my new blog! We are excited to share proven principles to help you Excel in your marriage. This blog will share practical principles on marriage, links to great marriage resources and insights for dating and engaged couples. Visit the blog often so you can Excel in your marriage!

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